Today’s woman faces a myriad of opportunities. Will she climb the “career ladder” and reach for the same goals that were reserved only for men just a decade ago? Will she choose to stay home, raise her children, and care entirely for the needs of her husband and family? Or will she try to do both? For some women, the decision is simple. They feel that the woman’s place is in the home, and would never even consider having a job away from the family. For others, the decision is complicated and they may have no choice but to work. This may be due to being a single mom or having a disabled husband.In order for the decision, “to work or not to work,” to be a truly successful decision –one that will be good for the marriage, the family, and the mother– it must be done according to God’s principles, because using biblical ideals provides guidance in successful decisions.
Women in today’s world have an infinite number of options when it comes to career choices. They can choose to work outside the home and perform the same jobs that were generally held by men only ten years ago. It is now much more common for women to work in the business world alongside men (Berg 17). They can also make the choice to work at home. Some women may choose to have a typing service or to do accounting out of their homes. Other women choose to make crafts and handmade items or to baby-sit for other mothers to make extra money. A woman can also choose not to work inside or outside the home for extra money, but only to take care of her family and do housework. It may depend on the energy and determination that a woman has as to whether she will be able to combine a career with a family. Whichever choice the husband and wife decide on, it should be based on biblical principles (Tchividjian 73).
What most people refer to as “work” usually means employment outside of the home (Tchividjian 73). Today it is quite normal for both the husband and the wife to work. But, some say that if they both work, there will be competition between the spouses. It may lead to judgments about which one is more successful (Vannoy and Philliber 388). “For millions of women, going to work is or soon may be an economic necessity. With inflation devouring the family’s budget at a terrifying rate, husbands and wives across the country and in the all Western world are facing the harsh reality that one income is simply not enough” (Moster 21).
A working woman’s ideas about being a stay-at-home mom will change dramatically after she quits her job. In the world of business, goals are easily measured and achieved. When a woman becomes a stay-at-home mom after being in the business world, she will find that her goals are not easily measured. Now, she must set long term goals, such as raising a child. She will have many expectations about her new job as a stay-at-home mom; and it will take a while for her to slow down the pace of her expectations without feeling like she is not accomplishing anything. She will also find that the “bliss” of motherhood that she was expecting is a lot more complicated and stressful than she imagined.
During the first few months, the mother will be teaching the baby that she loves him/her and that the baby can trust her to meet his/her needs for food, sleep, play, and affection. For a baby to learn these things, it takes a great deal of time, energy, and repetition (Kovatch 2). In repeating the acts to fulfill the baby’s needs for sleep, food, play, and affection, the mother is working on her long-term goal of raising her child properly. Managing a household and raising children lacks routine. It is important for the mother to realize that the baby doesn’t always need her to be doing something; he/she just needs her to be there.
A survey group was asked about what caused the most concern or fear about quitting their job and