.. laced in the skin that release hormones periodically over a period of five years, are expensive and have to be inserted and removed by a doctor. The withdrawal method (removal of the penis prior to ejaculation) is very ineffective, because pre-ejaculate fluids some-times carrying diseases and containing small amounts of sperm can leak from the penis. It takes only a single sperm to fertilize an egg! By far, the best form of birth control is abstinence. It’s a hundred percent effective, clean and easy to use, prevents pregnancy and STDs, always available, and it costs nothing.
The only major drawback is that it requires self-discipline on the parts of those who practice it. Perhaps an even more convincing factor is that of religion and moral value. As the Christian church puts it, sex should be for the purpose of reproduction and nothing else. In the Bible, 1st Corinthians 6:13 states: Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. And 6:18 says that we should flee from fornication..he that commiteth fornication sinneth against his own body.
In biblical times, any married woman who was proven to have had premarital sex was stoned to death at the door of her father’s home by the men of the city. If an engaged woman was seduced by one other than her fiancee, she and the man who seduced her were also stoned to death she for not screaming for help, and he because he’d violated the virginity of another man’s fiancee. The bible clearly states that God wants you to be holy and pure, and to keep clear of all sexual sin so that each of you will marry in holiness and honor – not in lustful passion as the heathen do, in their ignorance of God and his ways. Honor your marriage and its vows, and be pure; for God will surely punish all those who are immoral or commit adultery, says Hebrews 13:4. The Catholic religion is very strict in its teachings of abstinence. They believe strongly in that sex is for procreation only.
In fact, the only form of birth control approved by the Roman Catholic church is the rhythm method, or the avoidance of intercourse around the time of the female’s ovulation. (This method is not effective in preventing pregnancy.) However, nine out of ten Catholics do not believe that pregnancy prevention is wrong, and six of ten are using some form of artificial contraception. Catholics are engaging in premarital sex more than any other group of single Americans. Only 17 percent think that premarital sex is always wrong. These facts are just another example proving that abstinence teachings are weak in our churches and schools. Teenage members of the Baptist church have signed agreements saying they’ll abstain until they’re married. The program is called True Love Waits, and more and more high school and college kids are vowing to remain chaste.13-year-old Kenneth Legary thinks it’s a great idea, I don’t want to catch anything, and at the same time, I can be loyal to God and my parents, he says(Maynard B3).
The promise reads: Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, those I date, my future mate, and my future children to be sexually pure until the day I enter a covenant marriage relationship. The core of the whole thing, says Margaret Gleason, youth group leader at the First Baptist Church of Lakewood, is that God tells us to wait, (Maynard B3). So remember what the Bible says in Psalms 119:1 Happy are all who perfectly follow the laws of God. In addition, sex is surrounded by many emotional and mental consequences. Sex, especially the first time, can leave you feeling very emotional and very vulnerable, says child and adolescent psychologist Joan Kinlan.
(Rodriguez 52). Many people feel used after having sex for the first time. Others may feel as though they’ve been exploited. Sex can be very disappointing, due to differing physical sexual responses and uncomfortability between two partners. Guilt is also not an uncommon feeling after sex.
People who weren’t ready feel like they’ve let themselves and others down. Sex, in contrast to popular belief, does not always lead to emotional intimacy. Many teens who have sex before they’re ready have complicated and unsatisfying relationships, and soon the bond between the couple deteriorates. Sex can’t make one person like another more than they did before. Having sex doesn’t mean that a person will stay in a relationship, and it certainly won’t mend a crumbling one. It may prolong one, but cannot heal one.
It can only make things worse. While maturity plays a large part in the decision to have sex, it may not be enough. Other factors are involved. There is no certain right age to start a sexual relationship. Sex is a very individual, personal decision, says New York psychotherapist Laurie Stein,(Rodriguez 52). Besides, a person can have a warm, satisfying relationship without sex. Priscilla Reynolds, a Maine mother-of-two, says, As far as I’m concerned, you don’t need a sexual relationship to be involved with another person. (Ferriss 19).
In conclusion, I believe Marjorie Love says it best: Complete monogamy is the only safe way. (Ferriss 19) It’s true there is no better way to protect yourself from all the dangers surrounding sex. After all, you’re a role model. You have standards to maintain, and responsibilities to fulfill. Take it from Timothy 4:12 Don’t let anyone think little of you because you are young.
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